My first client was at one time a very fashionable woman. She had clothing that would make most women very jealous, designer dresses and suits with matching shoes, handbags and most importantly, a hat. Most of these beautiful clothes had not been in style for at least 30 years.
When it came time to sort through her clothes and decide what she could keep, it was a very traumatic experience for her. My client, I’ll call her “Ms Daisy”, wanted to keep everything, even though she was not able to wear any of the outfits.
After much discussion and a few tears, “Ms Daisy” reluctantly agreed that to donate the clothes, shoes, and handbags. However, “Ms Daisy” said that she wanted the hats! Most of them had been beautiful at one time, but their beauty was long gone, again after much discussion and a great deal of compromise on both “Ms Daisy” and me. So we packed up one small box of hats that moved with ” Ms Daisy”. “Ms Daisy” really loved her hats, every time I visited with her she had one of her hats on. It didn’t matter how bad it might have looked, it made her feel dressed up! She never stopped admiring hats. One of my last visits with her, I took her to an appointment, and she was all dressed up with her mink pill box hat.
On our way to her appointment we had a conversation about the hat the Aretha Franklin wore at the 2009 Inauguration. She loved that hat!
I believe wearing her hats made her feel physically better than she actually felt. So compromising a bit and taking a few of her favorite hats made her happy. Ms Daisy felt more in control of her life even though she new she really was not.
“Ms Daisy”, if she could, would strutting her stuff wearing her best Easter Bonnet!