Are you an Empty Nestor, in the Sandwich Generation, a Baby Boomer in transition or are you retired and living the carefree good life you want and expect? Many of you are looking at your lives and wondering what and why things changed or what you would like to change would like:
- Kids in college, not quite on their own – still coming home
- Adult children, on their own, married w/ family – being daycare for grandchildren
- Boomerang children – out of college –not working or working but not earning enough, and still living at home indefinitely.
- Caregiver for elderly loved one.
Has your lifestyle changed the way you want or thought it would? Many Baby Boomers are finding that nothing has changed, they are living the same old life, doing the same old things while yearning for a change. Then there are others who cannot seem to move on and let go of past life and obsolete things no matter how much they want to, and they cannot figure out why.
Are you blaming or making excuses for not making the changes to your life – the economy, the family obligations – just what is it! It is easy to blame the economy, politics, and others things you have very little control over these things, but you do have control, most of the time, over the material and emotional clutter that has built up over time.
When we reach a certain age, whether it is 55 or 65 it may be time to take charge of your life and the changes you want. By now we should be on our own. Family obligations reduce to a minimum and thinking of retirement and similar life changes like; minimizing our lifestyles, making modifications in our living arrangements, and significantly reducing unwanted and unnecessary outside demands on our time and energy. Determining what will make life easier and more enjoyable and pleasant is your first challenge.
Make a plan and prioritize what you like or dislike about your life, your living arrangements, and activities.
- You started your family later than your peers, and some are still in college.
- Your boomerang child feels entitled to stay as long as they want.
- You don’t mind occasionally being a daycare back up but not on a regular basis.
- You are now the primary caregiver for elderly relatives on a regular basis.
Start breaking down the road blocks on what is holding you back; and decide to move forward. How? After you have answers to evaluating the wants, likes and dislikes of our life and lifestyle. Creating your action plan on the – What, How, and When will keep you focused and pointed in the right direction. You may need to multi-task several of these items to reach your ultimate goal. For instance, you may be working on developing a new or update a financial and estate plan while working on minimizing the material and emotional things in your life, to accommodate the lifestyle changes you want are making.
Claire LeSage is the owner of WITTZ END Relocation Concierge Service. Claire and her team work with Baby Boomers and seniors helping them let go of the past and move on to have a more peaceful, comfortable, simpler, and easier life.