It always amazes me when I am downsizing and decluttering closets how many shoes people have, not just women, but men too! People seem to have a real issue throwing away or even donating unused and older shoes.
Scattered on closet floors, hanging over doors in bags, and the real serious shoe people have them methodically stored in plastic boxes labeled by color and style. If they get really carried away, or leaning toward obsessive compulsive behavior they will even make a note to what outfit and handbag it goes with! Makes you want to ask; Is it a shoe fetish or just a love affair with shoes?
I freely admit that I love shoes! Shoe shopping is really the only shopping I truly love. There is something about the new shoe smell (something like a new car smell), trying on new shoes, and visualizing what outfit you will wear with them. This is why I love to buy new shoes, BUT my question is; Why is it so difficult to part with shoes once they no longer meet our needs?
I have pondered this question for a while now. I think there are a few possibilities why we procrastinate. We cannot part with them because;
- I still liked them,
- They are still comfortable (unlike other pieces of clothing) and still look reasonably good.
- They make me feel good, beautiful, or whatever.
- I still like the style and have not been able to find another pair in that color or heel height.
- They just do not make shoes like these anymore.
- I have an odd shoe size and they are hard to find.
- They are classic, never go out of style, and go with everything!
These are my excuses, I am sure you some of them or have your own perfectly valid and rational reasons for hanging on to shoes for longer than reasonably necessary.
So what are shoe lovers to do when shoes tumble out of your closet, or worse yet you need a whole closet for only your shoes? It is difficult, but tough decisions must be made.
- Separate shoes that you wear regularly and put them to one side.
- Take the shoes that you wear with particular outfits (some shoes in #1 may overlap),
- Ask the question – How often have I worn these shoes and outfit in the past 12 months? If the answer is zero to 2, seriously consider donating the shoes and the outfit.
- Then take a look at the shoes that you cannot remember when you last wore them and toss or donate them.
Separate the regularly worn shoes from the ‘special’ shoes in your closet, then when you buy a new pair evaluate whether to retire a pair from either collection, and DO IT!
Just like Neil Sedaka’s song says, Breaking Up Is Hard To Do, when you have this love affair with shoes it is really hard. However, I know we will all find another pair of ratty, old sneakers or comfortable boots to fill the void in our heart.